Coming To Terms With Your Sexual Preference

You hear many stories from kids, young adults and older people about their sexual preference. I recently talked with a man that was married for seventeen years and had three daughters. He was married to a high school sweetheart and had no intention of leaving her or his daughters. We will call this man Rob for the sake of this story.

Rob has stated that he has always felt that he had feelings for men, but until recently, he never identified this with a sexual preference until he met a man through work that really stirred feelings inside him. He said he had felt these feelings when he was younger, but people never talked about being gay or lesbian so he just ignored his feelings and married his wife. Rob went on to say that, these feelings are very strong for this other man. He is filled with confusion and has no idea what to do.

Unfortunately, today's society makes it hard for people to be honest with their feelings and with other family members. This has been happening for many years. When Rob was younger, openly admitting you were gay was not heard of. Today, if you admit you are gay, people judge you, criticize you, and tell you it is your imagination. People will rush you to the first available counselor or church official to "cure" you from these feelings.

Rob is not any different from anyone else that has these feelings. Many people young and old are afraid of what family and friends will say if they tell them how they feel. It is a shame that people suffer inside because they are afraid of how they will be judge or ridiculed for how they feel. Rob is in his early forties and has these feelings of uncertainty about telling people. Can you imagine how a teenager feels?

Kids should feel good about sharing their thoughts and feelings with a family member or a friend instead of feeling the need to hide their feelings. If adults continue to make a big deal about being gay or lesbian, more children are going to grow up with serious issues that could be avoided if people would just open their minds and accept people for who they are and not what they think people should be.