Coming To Terms With Your Sexual Preference

You hear many stories from kids, young adults and older people about their sexual preference. I recently talked with a man that was married for seventeen years and had three daughters. He was married to a high school sweetheart and had no intention of leaving her or his daughters. We will call this man Rob for the sake of this story.

Rob has stated that he has always felt that he had feelings for men, but until recently, he never identified this with a sexual preference until he met a man through work that really stirred feelings inside him. He said he had felt these feelings when he was younger, but people never talked about being gay or lesbian so he just ignored his feelings and married his wife. Rob went on to say that, these feelings are very strong for this other man. He is filled with confusion and has no idea what to do.

Unfortunately, today's society makes it hard for people to be honest with their feelings and with other family members. This has been happening for many years. When Rob was younger, openly admitting you were gay was not heard of. Today, if you admit you are gay, people judge you, criticize you, and tell you it is your imagination. People will rush you to the first available counselor or church official to "cure" you from these feelings.

Rob is not any different from anyone else that has these feelings. Many people young and old are afraid of what family and friends will say if they tell them how they feel. It is a shame that people suffer inside because they are afraid of how they will be judge or ridiculed for how they feel. Rob is in his early forties and has these feelings of uncertainty about telling people. Can you imagine how a teenager feels?

Kids should feel good about sharing their thoughts and feelings with a family member or a friend instead of feeling the need to hide their feelings. If adults continue to make a big deal about being gay or lesbian, more children are going to grow up with serious issues that could be avoided if people would just open their minds and accept people for who they are and not what they think people should be.

New York Passes Law Allowing Gay Marriage

It's a good day in New York. Gay couples wanting to marry can now do so in New York. Governor Andrew Cuomo has made New York the sixth and most populous U.S. state to allow gay marriage. This sends a message to other states, or it should.

Same sex marriages aren't going away. People of the same sex want to marry and have the same equality that other couples in love have no matter what a few select have to say. In 30 days, couples will be able to share in the joy other couples have when they say, "I do" in front of an official, if they find one to perform the ceremony.

Although it's a law, religious institutes do not have to perform the ceremonies if they don't agree with doing it. But, that's okay, because there are plenty of officials that can perform the ceremony that will unite a same sex couple without hesitation.

New Hampshire, Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, Vermont and the District of Columbia allow gay marriages, and Illinois Delaware, Hawaii and New Jersey approved civil unions. There are 39 states including Wisconsin that ban gay marriage.